The word SO is the beginning word of almost every sentence by people uttered ’round these parts.
“Soooo… you go down to end of the road and make a right”
“Soooo… do you want pickles on your burger?”
Soooo…. where am I?
Well, I am on the road writing this from the spectacular country of Canada. Unlike California, it is green, fresh smelling, and water is everywhere. Barns outnumber people, roadkill is abundant, and sole proprietorships like JOE’S GAS STATION abound. I love it here.
This is an interesting trip for me. I am traveling with my 81 yo father who is starting to have memory problems. Makes for some interesting repeated conversations that start with “I didn’t know that!.” (He did) and end with “What did you say???? ” (Said at the top of his voice because his hearing is also going.) Getting old isn’t for sissies (or for their daughters.)
This expedition is special. My father is beginning to mellow a little in his old age. It makes for a closer relationship with him being a much better listener than when I was growing up. He chooses his words more carefully these days too. These are nice changes that I appreciate at my age. I also realize that he may not be around much longer so I am trying to make this a happy experience for the two of us and cram my head with memories that will sustain me when he is gone.
Two months ago, I decided I wanted to take this trip to Canada when I became genealogically frustrated. For years I have searched for information about where GG Grandfather was born, who his parents were, etc. I finally got tired of barking up the wrong trees and decided to come to the source to see if I could glean any new information. I am not hopeful as record keeping was done as an afterthought in these parts until the later decades of the 1800’s. But I also know that information can often be found where you least expect it so I am going with that mindset for the next few days believing if I wish it hard enough that it will come true. Tomorrow we head further north to the place where my GG Grandmother was born in 1835. It is hard to believe that I will be standing in the same miniscule town where she lived in a log cabin all those years ago. It must have been hard eking out a living as a farmer or miner in these parts of the country. I often wonder if people today could do the back-breaking work that are relations did before we all went soft.
This afternoon Dad and I spent our time together doing research at the local public library but came up short. We searched through books, family histories and microfiche and found nothing. But it was enjoyable because I can say with good authority that there is nothing like the smell of old books. There is something about that odor that is comforting and takes you back to places that smell like cobwebbed attics or ancient barns. Old, yet, familiar smells. Like the scent of your grandmothers old wool coat or your grandfathers well-worn boots which smelled of pipe tobacco and stood up by themselves over on the back porch. The funny thing is, while I found nothing about my family, I did find something about B’s purely by chance. The information was contained within a book about the Donnelly family. I first found out about this saga several years ago when I was researching B’s family. To my surprise and horror I learned that one of B’s relatives had probably been involved in a mob killing of several members of the Donnelly family. It was interesting to read about it today from a fresh perspective and learn more about the movie that was made about this small town tragedy.
Tomorrow we will head out early as Dad likes to get a jump on the day. I think he believes that he has a limited amount of hours left on this earth and he doesn’t want to spend them laying in bed. No, by golly, he wants adventure. He wants to see new places before he passes. And he wants to find THE BEST chicken sandwich that has ever graced a hungry customers plate. This new attitude of his inspires me to want the same for myself.
So here I am on the road again. Just me, my old man and some new memories that the two of us are collecting along the way. Today, I am grateful to have this opportunity to learn about myself, my father, and my past. It truly doesn’t get much better than this!
BTW, you know you are in Canada when…
6 thoughts on “On The Road Again”
SO glad you’re in my world! Timmy Ho’s is not all we are good for, I am so glad you show a few other goodies. I wish you luck. if you can’t find anything about your distant past, the time spent with this softened version of your father is time well spent i think.
much love. this post is… beautiful. because its simple. and honest. and about somethiing about you that doesnt revolve around your marriage.
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Awww those words of yours are so sweet. They brightened my day! Thank you.
I’m on my way to take my dad for lunch, he’s 88, also pretty confused but mostly cool.
we’ve been pouring over old passports that he has, from Lithuania, great grandparents, trying to find out who / what / how everyone is.
I guess we both know time is limited.
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So you understand how meaningful these moments are! Sounds like you need to get on Ancestry.com so you can figure it all out! Have a great lunch!
I can tell by the pictures that you are no-where near my part of Canada :(. Otherwise I’d be inviting you over for a visit. 🙂
I hope you enjoy your travels and your time with your father.
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And I would come!!!! Thank you!