When you are going through a “maybe-divorce” I think that sometimes it is easy for forget the good parts of the mate who may no longer want you in their life. In fact, I suspect that many people, just like me, often begin to concentrate on the negative so if the divorce does indeed occur, they have at their fingertips all the reasons that their partner was a jerk, asshole or just plain incompatible. It is easy to think of all the wonderful things about your mate when everything is sunshine, rainbows and consists of great sex in the middle of some exotic location. It’s when things get unpleasant that remembering those positive attributes gets tough. So B, this is for you, and even though you won’t know it exists, I guess I kind of believe if I put them out in the universe you will know they are there. Maybe these ideas will also bump into a few men who need a primer on just what a good man is.

1. You love our kids and would do anything for them even if it means watching My Little Pony 250 thousand times.
2. At this point in the game, I still believe you would save my life no matter what the cost to yourself. Clark Kent has nothing on you!
3. You work hard to bring home a paycheck which makes our lives easier.
4. You are encouraging to our children and to me. Whether it is a pat on the back or a shout out from the stands we know you believe in us and what we are doing.
5. You believe in us. You help us find those qualities in ourselves that make it possible for us to succeed.
6. You treat your extended family well. You are good to your brothers and sisters. You were a wonderful son to your parents and grandmother. You can talk to my father when he and I fail to communicate.
7. You are careful with your words. Most of the time you think before engaging your lips…a very sexy quality in a man and one that I often lack!
8. You have worked hard to keep people employed. I have always admired how you have done your upmost to keep your employees employed during tough economic times. I know how you worry about how the impact of unemployment will effect their families and do everything to protect them.
9. You take care of the yard every week. Even though you didn’t want a dog you still pick up the poop…if that doesn’t say love than nothing does!
10. You will iron my clothes if I am in a hurry and I ask. Now if I could just put you in an apron while doing it you would fulfill a major fantasy of mine!
11. You are involved in many groups that help kids and people in need. That makes you admirable in my book.
12. You have a spiritual side that I envy. I wish with all my heart I was on that ride with you.
13. You are adventurous and willing to go that extra mile to peek around a corner to see what is there. Thank you for taking me around the bend with you.
14. You like to travel. We have stumbled on weird places that have brought us so much laughter over the years. Remember the old swingers resort that Expedia sent us to or the goat grill in the backwoods of Yugoslavia? Those were some great times.
15. You used to read a story to put our children to bed even though you were tired after a long day. I loved listening to you showed our kids you loved them and because you took the characters from the book into our bedroom. ‘nough said.
16. You are balanced. Even though you have a company to run you still put us at the top of the list of things you have to do. That is sexy!
17. You give respect to most everyone you meet. The ability to connect with so many people of diverse backgrounds and interests speaks volumes about what you are made of.
18. You are good with our money. Thank goodness one of us is!
19. You have a great sense of humor No one can make me laugh and lighten the load like you.
20. You have good manners. I am waiting for that invitation to a White House  dinner so you can be my arm candy and make me look good with your ability to charm everyone you meet.
21. You have shaped yourself by finding traits in others that you admire and then adapting and incorporating them into your life. I love how you have made other men your mentors, men like your Uncle and Andy, and were thankful to learn from them.
22. You have a sense of gratitude. Nothing is worse than a pompous man. You thank those around you and lift them up while doing so.
23. You have a positive attitude. You manage to enjoy the unexpected, even when it’s not what you wanted originally
24. You have goals and ambition. Ambition leads to qualities such as discipline, creativity and persistence which all lead to success.
25. You are comfortable in a variety of roles. You can be Mom, Dad, Grandpa, Friend, Boss, Trustee and you are comfortable in them and wear them well.
26. You are wise. You learn not from the experience itself but from reflecting on the lessons that you learned from it. You also know how to balance common good with self interest.
27. You try to do right by others.
28. You often put others wants ahead of your own which make those others feel valued and important.
29. You share your time, money and love with us and children around the world.
30. You work hard at being a thoughtful and skillful lover putting my sexual needs first regardless of whether or not you get the dividend at the end.

Yes, there are also some important qualities that need to be on this list. Patience (Which you do have oodles of), compassion, bravery just to name a few. Did I say honesty? Oops…honesty! Yes, definitely honesty belongs on this list. But all in all, if every man was like B the world would be a better place!